Good Vibes Only!
In a world of chaos and confusion and lives filled with people, places and things that can easily negatively impact our mind, body and soul; protecting one’s peace is pretty much a new necessity. “Protect your peace” is a new phrase floating around the internet and I have grown to love it and am TRYING to practice it daily. I am a person whose mood, attitude, vibe, etc is easily affected by others (& it’s very annoying but I’m working on it).
“Peace; does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart”. There are many things we have no control over that can impact how we think and feel however as much as there are things we cannot control there is one thing that we certainly can control and that’s OURSELVES. We must make a conscience decision to protect our peace despite what is going on and we do that by taking control of the things we can.
Stop Trying to Please Everyone
Being a people pleaser means you focus on everyone else’s feelings, wants, needs and desires above your own. That is nice and all but while everyone else is happy you tend to be the only unhappy one. It is okay to say NO. It doesn’t make you a bad person; it makes you a good person to yourself. Not only do you need to set boundaries and do what’s best for you at all times. You also need to do what YOU WANT no matter what people say or think. Like Salt N Peppa said “ Opinions are like a**holes and everybody’s got one”. People will also have an opinion on what you should and should not do and they may genuinely mean well however you should also do what’s best for you as long as you are not doing harm to yourself.
Take Out the Trash
Peace comes at a price. You have to lose some people, places and things and no I am not calling anyone trash but in life we have to make difficult decisions to let go of people, places and things that do not serve a positive purpose in our lives. There are places we visit, friends we have, family members we inherited, pages we follow, shows we watch, etc that stress us out, brings out our insecurities, makes us unhappy, and so much more; you must eliminate them from your life in order to obtain and keep your peace.
Speak It Into Existence
Peace is something you have to work toward everyday. So as you put in the necessary work to have peace to protect you should already think and believe that you are at peace. Focus on the positive and not the negative, not the depression, not anxiety, not fear but on happiness, love, joy, etc so you can begin to embody it. Sometimes we have to speak things into existence so they can happen. Everyday wake up and state “ I am filled with peace and I will work daily to protect it.''
What you don’t know will hurt you! Know your triggers. Know what gives you anxiety. Know what ticks you off. Know what makes you feel less than. Know what makes you question yourself. Pay attention to yourself, self-reflect, sit in your feelings and emotions so that you are aware of what takes you into a sad, mad, angry, hurt place. Once you are aware of your triggers you will be better equipped and prepared to address it.
“Your inner peace is the greatest and most valuable treasure that you can discover.” ~Akin Olokun